People say change is hard. But the hardest part of change is not the change itself, but recognizing that it’s necessary. Somehow, we need to realize that we’re oblivious or in denial about certain aspects of our lives, and acknowledge that we alone are responsible to actually do something about it.
Outside Magazine recently published an article titled "YOU'RE DELUSIONAL ABOUT YOUR HEALTH." Subtle, but it hits close to home.
I was at a conference during my "thick" years, and one of the attendees and I sported remarkably similar hairstyles. Naturally I thought I rocked it and that he didn't, in particular because I viewed him as "thick" and myself as, well, less thick. Fine, I viewed myself as svelte, and gloated to myself about how lean & mean I looked. A month later I received the quarterly newsletter from the conference sponsor, and there on the cover was a photo of me and the other similarly coiffed dude. And we looked the same. Same hair, same gut, same chins (yes, more than one each). The. Same. If anything, I was the thick one. Talk about deluded.
We train ourselves to see our bodies in a certain way. We think, “Oh, I’m not that thick.” Really? Then we catch ourselves off guard and get a glimpse of the truth. Ever been tagged in a candid photo on Facebook and not recognize yourself? Ever catch a reflection in a window or a mirror as you round a corner at the mall? Who is that person?
We become desensitized to our own condition. Like the “cat lady” who lives alone because she can no longer smell the dozen-plus felines that keep her company, we become desensitized to our physical condition. We simply get used to it.
Admitting we have a problem is the first step to recovery, right?
So let’s say you have a vague notion of the truth about yourself, but you don’t really know what to do. How does one create health? For a long time after my delusion shattered, I had no clue. All I knew was that something had to change. I just didn’t know what, or how, or… anything. So for a long time, I did nothing.
And you know what I found? If you don’t change anything, nothing changes. Hoping and wishing and pining and dreaming for change doesn’t get the job done. It’s not until we actually do something about the problem that things stand a chance of turning around.
So if you want optimal health in your life but you don't know how to create it, chances are you're probably not doing anything intentional about it. Hey, there’s good news: you’ve already nailed the hard part, realizing the need to change.
If all you lack is the tools, then I’m your guy. I have been where you are now, and I’m telling you it’s possible. Once we have the tools to make the change, the change itself is not that difficult. I’m a Health Coach with Take Shape For Life, and I can help. Contact me, and let’s make the change.
“It's never too late to be what you might have been.” –George Elliot.